God Loved Us First: Something I Noticed in Scripture
One of my favorite little verses about love is found in 1 John 4:19.
“We love him, because he first loved us.” — 1 John 4:19 (KJV)
It’s such a short verse, but there’s something important to notice.
FIRST.
God loved us first.
Before we could do anything to earn His love, before we knew how to love Him in return, God loved us.
Now let’s look a little earlier in the same chapter.
In 1 John 4:9–10, John explains how God demonstrated His love by sending His Son into the world.
And in Romans 5:8, Paul writes:
“But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” (KJV)
Did you notice that?
God didn’t wait for us to become good enough to deserve His love.
He showed His love through Jesus.
And when we continue reading 1 John 4, we discover another connection.
“Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another.” — 1 John 4:11 (KJV)
There it is again!
God loved us first. And because He loved us, we are called to love others.
Our love doesn’t earn God’s love. It is a response to the love He has already shown us. And Jesus gives His followers a beautiful instruction in John 13:34–35. He tells them to love one another as He has loved them.
Love isn’t just something we talk about or something we put on a Valentine’s card.
It’s something we can show through our words and actions.
In fact, 1 John 3:18 encourages us to love not only in words but in deed and truth.
So when we explore God’s love with children, we can help them discover something wonderful:
We don’t begin with trying harder to love. We begin by discovering how God has loved us.
Helping Kids Discover God’s Love
Here’s a simple way to explore this together.
Read 1 John 4:19.
Ask your children to listen for one important word.
FIRST.
Then talk about what it means.
Ask:
Who loved us first?
How did God show His love for us?
What can we learn about God’s love from Jesus?
How can we respond to the love God has shown us?
Now read 1 John 4:9–11.
Encourage your children to notice how John connects God’s love for us with our love for others.
You might even read the verses again and count how many times you hear the word love.
A Love That Begins with God Activity
Gather a piece of paper, crayons, and a pencil.
Draw one large heart in the center of the page.
Inside the heart, write:
GOD LOVED US FIRST — 1 JOHN 4:19
Now draw several smaller hearts around it.
In each smaller heart, invite your children to draw or write one way they can show love to someone else.
Maybe they can help a sibling, encourage a friend, forgive someone, or share something they enjoy.
Then draw lines connecting the smaller hearts to the large one.
Talk about how our love for others is connected to the love God has shown us.
The goal isn’t simply to create a list of kind things to do.
It’s to help children remember why we love.
Because God loved us first.